What do you do when your family time conflicts with your work time? What can I do to rotate my work schedule forward so I can get some fucking sleep without giving up on either work or my family?

This sucks, I get like 5 hours of sleep at night and my job wants me to be here no later than 9 for whatever reason.

Not to mention my commute is about 45-60 minutes both ways

Not to mention I'm making just enough money to cover my bases. Going to Costa Rica for a vacation is no where near my ability.. hell even driving across the state for a weekend trip would be wildly out of budget.

I've tried asking for a flexible schedule and ability to work from home as needed but its just become a circular debate.
I'm getting burned out and always feel tired, have no energy to stay motivated or give a shit

If you're self-employed, have your legal shit together even if you trust a client.

Your legal work is not for expected cases when everything is rainbows and unicorns, it's for the times when SHTF. It provides you and your prospective clients with clarity on what to mutually expect.

There will be scope creep, there will be late payments,... You can be lenient, but cover your legal bases so that you don't have to be.