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A big FUCK YOU to everyone who called me a nerd in high school.
Who's earning more now? Ha!
Jokes on you!
But seriously, I didn't realise intelligence is highly appreciated until I started working as a developer. 🤑5
This rant is devoted to my study friends. You see, I never knew what it was to not have people making fun of you/bullying you until I started my study.
Elementary school + highschool was one big mess of bullying, being made fun of and hardly having any friends.
At highschool I decided I wanted to go into IT. Especially programming. Programming in particular because when I was programming, I, for once, was the one in control. The code listened to me and for that tiny moment I was god.
Never really had much friends though and when I told my parents I wanted to do an MBO study (application development), my mother warned me that although she and my dad supported me with whatever my decision would be, MBO level studies were rough because of the general mindset/atmosphere there.
I thought fuck it, I want to do programming because that seems awesome and maybe I'll even make some friends with the same interests!
Then study arrived. Met a few guys with similar interests and we started hanging out together.
And then it came back just like before. Two guys who loved bullying and I was still a quite easy target because I couldn't stand up for myself.
But, then something happened. I liked a girl, she was in the hallway and two of the bullies (there were about 4-5 in total) got up and started fucking around with me (about her) and I just sat there, not daring to do anything with tears in my eyes.
Then two of my classmates noticed it, quickly came to my desk and started pushing the guys away with 'back the fuck off, what the fuck has he done to you?!'. Then one of those guys (now still about my best friend) came to me to see if I was alright.
We started talking. Then at some point, another bully had a go at me. This would be the final time. He was about 2 meters tall (I was about 160cm or something) and stood there in the door opening with a very nasty smile saying all nasty stuff, trying to intimidate me and probably tried to make me feel like crap again.
Nice guy on my right asked me to step to the left. Gave that guy a huge fucking foot in his chest and he smacked onto the ground. Made a gentleman's sign like 'go ahead, sir!' while gesturing towards the door.
From that moment on the bullying stopped. Throughout my study, some other bad things happened but those guys were always there for me.
Although I've lost touch with most of the guys (they're on social media, I'm not really), we still meet up once in a while and have a lot of beers while talking and laughing and thinking back to the good times we had together.
The study wasn't the best for what we were taught as in studying but it's the best choice I've ever made nonetheless.
Oh and that best friend and I still have loads of contact!13
Skype has a mean auto reply. If the auto reply is based on a neural net, then they must be sampling from bullies.10
A programmer once explained Nietzsche like this:
A long time ago, god created the world, but forgot to leave a developer documentation, thus the whole world was like legacy code...
And humans are like the end user of this world, and some among them spent time studying it, using the Moral API, hoping to get a result of "http 200 ok" from our world for the peace of mind. But the true operation of this world is still yet unknown...
As time passes, humans begin to find that in Moral API, good and evil are two base classes, and all the other moral properties (like ethic, justice and stuff) are just other classes based on those two classes through multiple inheritance.
One day, when programmer Nietzsche was observing the world's runtime behavior, he came up with a question:
"Did god really use good and evil as base classes? Could it be that they are actually derived classes?"
Most of the world is currently in the favor of mankind, and god must've wrote individual user cases for it's end users, he thought.
This made Nietzsche thinking: if end users are considered into two cases: the strong and the weak, how would the world be designed base on its user story?
Let's think about the strong, they can bully the weak as they please, and there's nothing the weak can do to stop them. In this case whether the Moral API exists or not doesn't fulfill the need of the strong.
But when it comes to the weak, Nietzsche thinks that because the weak cannot fight the strong, they need to belittle bullying and praise the strong for being nice. When the weak does this, it covers their powerless state to some extent, making them look somehow equal to the strong by being capable of commenting.
God might have coded the Moral API to fit the weak's requirement, also adding some public methods for the weak to comment on the strong. If the strong takes care of the weak, they call him nice and good, if the strong bullies people, they call him bad and evil.
That's when Nietzsche realized, that good and evil are both derived classes from the weak, and the base class should be the strong and the weak.
Then he started a series of studies about the Moral API, and got some thesis that persuaded lots of other end users...7
I remeber being classified as the nerd at school. Picked on because i wasnt socially normal or part of the croud. Programming became my love and a few years later. Im doing very well and now those that use to think it was fun picking on me see me as the guy they need inspiration ideas and help from because im doing well for myself and im considering helping them.
It sucks being a good guy.. I cant get myself to turn others away that needs help2
(mostly !dev) Fuck humans! Really: what a scum bag race. All that shit talk about human dignity, the highest values are just sugar coating the low base motives we mostly live by. Like people have such fine antennas for your income, social status, the power or lack thereof you exert over other. They know it before you open your mouth, that they can pick on you, harass you, because you're the one on the receiving end, the one that bows away. The bullies feel that. On an overcrowded chicken yard you'll find more dignity than in human society.
Everybody drooling over that polished photoshop life on facetubeinsta: materialistic, consumeristic, masturbatic wastage. At least we now say it openly: that if we were the winners, we'd also take it all, live that empty luxury, life of fame. But 99,99% of us, we aren't in that position, just working off our arse to only keep afloat. And for the stars, those fake images, we're just rats to click on ads to better train Google.
No wonder that software, as a picture of human communication is such a shitfest of arbitrary, entropic conventions and endemic epidemic of quirks, bugs and evil trap doors. As a whole: an insults to reason, a challenge to sanity. (...Conway's law)
And I'm still a bit pissed at our profession, that, you know, as engineers, scientists, physicists, we still see us in the lineage of that "great" age of enlightenment and reason,.. while it's all just a cover up. Sure science and their ideas are nice as long as you serve a purpose or make some money. Sure democracy and free speech are great achievements, but in the end some elites and monopolies rule the world at their gusto - and will not stop destroying the world unless we're already one feet in the abyss (like 1962, be we ain't had enough of that shit, hadn't we?)9
What's up with giving away +1's for anything and everything? I thought this was a place for cranky developers. I expected developers over here to be mean and bullies.6
Today, I went to school. The school was full of
bullies and it was hard to understand, so I went home.
I was beaten up very badly that I lived a life in
Who gives out an assignment with a weightage of 6 Marks in total that too for demonstrating GRAPHIC USER INTERFACE? My Cryptography Proff. that’s who.
Why are faculties such bullies considering themselves the kingpins?
some personal problems + retrospection post on life and introvert-ism . read on if you feel so, i just want to take this out...
Am currently working from home in home owned by my family, with expenses worth 10% of our family income / 40% of my income if i had to handle all by myself . there's rarely a reason for me to go out and overall am at an... average place in my life. not too bad, not to good. if i have to make a luxury, its gonna cost me a few years but am gonna afford it. sad but OK.
my problem is my nature, my family's nature and the fear of problems given by the society that i have to eventually face.
let me start from the problems given by the societies. some of you are gonna laugh on these because for you these are just normal scenarios that you rarely ever face and usually WIN at these. but for people like me (mainly me) these problems are real, and i really don't know how to deal with them.
1. HOW TO DEAL WITH STUBBORN AND DANGEROUS PEOPLE?
i am talking about bullies, corrupt police guys, or bulky goon-ish empowered people( in hindi we call them 'gunda' type people ) : those who are loosers but actually have the power, like some guy on the road who recklessly scratched/banged your car with theirs, or some guy who is standing in front of you in a movie hall and when you ask "hey dude, sit down" , he would say ", no i want , what you are gonna do?" ( ok bad example but there are people who immediately come up to argument of " what are you gonna do?" ).
i haven't found a way to win from these people .
i feel meek and stupid about this, but "I can't do anything about this"/some other smart non fight/non alpha move is what i usually take .
moreover i feel meek and stupid about why i can't feel the same like them ever . like why can't i ever feel confident in saying someone "no i am not doing this. what are you gonna do" because i feel they can do a LOT but when the roles are switched they are pretty confident that "i", can't do the any harm
2. HOW TO DEAL WITH POLITICAL AND DANGEROUS PEOPLE? AND SITUATIONS THEY INTENTIONALLY/UNINTENTIONALLY CREATE
This is either my over conscious head talking or some real life meta scenario, but there are some situations which feels like a booby trap to me. situations that usually happens in offices , where there are smoke gatherings or bear parties or boss ass licking parties, things that I can't be a part off, and the unnecessary pressure of joining that comes with those.
where boss's ass licker could come up with some cheeky question that you will be too awkward to answer because you can't come with an equally witty/ ass licking/self boasting answer. i am too bad at social dynamics.
apart from that the situations of alpha beta comes at those gatherings too where the boss is not the one to please. like some chics of office are sitting. then by the nature, guys will attract to those like some bees to nectar. simpletons like me would go and try to impress/make connection by the sheer knowledge and nature. because that's all i have( if any female gender is reading this , its still 2021 and you are not gonna be wooed by some beer belly timid short creepy guy , right ? also, no the guy doesn't have a house full of cash or billionaire heritage) . but then some dumbass hulky macho beard square jaw guy would come and try to macho-fy everyone : to me by breaking me down on shitty things, and to those girls by showing ho he can break any timid guy around.
^--- this macho-ism or whatever these guy shows, i want to either have it or find a way to encounter it. but unfortunately i can't
Till class 1-12 i was a guy from poor family, in a school full of rich, spoilt students. i have seen way to many macho people and got crushed a million times. today am in a company where just because i don't call anyone sir and have always met them behind screen with a close camera, i have been able to rise up to a position where some ofthe biggest changes and decision scenarios are being made by involving me, i am being appreciated by my knowledge and being given bigger and bigger responsibilities and bigger benefits: just yesterday i opened my laptop for 30 mins only and that was it. ONE FULL WORKING DAY SALARY = 30 MINS OF LAPTOP WORK!!
I got all this because of my virtual image and knowledge and not my personality.i am living life of a cunning ass boss's dick licker hulky guy (without girls ) . but my personality is so shit that am not gonna get any of that in a scenario where i have to interact with people. rather i/people like me are those who end up doing even more work just because the above mentioned guys could live a life i just described.
Is this a justified code review comment or a bully?
Code reviews are weakness of this industry which has the potential to attract bullies. Abuse of the comment box in a pull request and bombarding the employee with hundreds of comments can cause stress, frustration, burnout and finally resignation and costs of fulfillment for the organization. While companies should find and stop bullying in the work place, what kind of code review comment is considered a bully and why? Any of below traits can mean you are dealing with a bully:
1. Claims the code needs to be changed but doesn't say how. So no matter how many times you change your code, he can repeat the same comment: "Your code is still bad due to blah blah and it needs to be changed".
2. Provides how the code should be changed, but the change doesn't add up to quality, security, performance, readability, etc. i.e. "Why did you use a for loop here? Use a while loop instead". Or "Why did you write it using three classes A, B and C? Instead write it using 4 classes D, E, F and G which does blah blah". In the later case, not following the review comment, you won't get approval. Following the comment means you need to rewrite your whole code. After which, you might again receive more comments to change other parts of your code!
3. Claims the requested change is due to standards but claimed standard does exist anywhere. Internet, company wiki, university course books, anywhere. In more severe cases of psychopathy, the bullying person refers you to a link which hours later turned out to be written by himself! Have fun describing what has happened to your manager or team leader... .
4. Asks the code to be changed in a way that supposedly is closer to standard or of better quality, security, performance, etc. But the proposed way will not work and is the main reason you didn't do that in the first place. So you start arguing forever in the comment box over why his method won't work!
If you cannot see any of the above traits, then keep calm, take a breath, fix your code. Otherwise you might be victim of a bully.2