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You know the truth about young people?
It’s goddamn hard to be a young person these days, or millennial or whatever the fuck they’re calling it now. So give em a break.
It always has been hard, but this time is different. Let me share a few stories:
-my friend said half the time if he walks up to women in a bar and asks their name he gets yelled at because “if I wanted to date you I’d be on tinder.” A few of those times he had no romantic intentions even.
-Amazon and eBay=instant gratification. This stunts mental goal development, and makes transitioning into professional life stressful.
-online dating particularly tinder means people have option fatigue and inflated expectations. Very hard to connect with people personally.
-Facebook shines everyone’s accomplishments in your face, and it’s one thing to be bombarded with that when you’re married and working a good job and emotionally adjusted, it’s another to be pelted with it while in emotional turmoil.
-amplified by the global economy and global social/professional bubble, the world has more people that you can be face to face with now than it ever has.
-global competition, easy to feel inadequate when you haven’t established yourself in a career or adjusted to professional environments.
-social media is a dopamine addiction that companies are actively seeking to hook you on, it’s very alluring and difficult to exist when everybody is doing it and universities and jobs want you to do it, and the consequences of it are purposely hidden from the users. Very difficult to break.
-another consequence is young people are then pelted with advertisments that usually have a negative message and are way more powerful than people realize, considering they seem so harmless on the surface.
-regular young person problems, the older generation doesn’t like the attitude and sometimes it’s hard to get taken seriously at work.
-victim culture, I can attest, watching everyone lust over being a victim is contagious and it poisoned me for a long period of time as it has many others, and thinking of yourself as a victim instead of taking charge of your circumstances does massive collateral damage to emotional and mental health. And it’s not being talked about. It took me years before I even realized that I was doing it, and even longer to stop. I STILL slip up.
-Raised in a culture of participation consolation prizes, and as people graduate college they’re slapped over the face with reality as they realize that there are real failures and even though those failures can still amount to something, there is no consolation prize.
-parenting strategy of “everyone is special” and then realizing when you get old enough that you are unique but there are still others like you, and you are not special in the way you always believed.
Technology is changing our lives for better or worse, and we need to pick the direction it’s going to take us. This is why so many people are struggling with anxiety today.
So if you work with young people, be nice to them and try to think about how you can say something to them that will help them adjust to some of these challenges, rather than thinking of them as weak. They carry a lot of weight on their shoulders, weight that a lot of people don’t take seriously. They can overcome it, but not with people beating down on them.148
I was explaining to my mom how my company is in need of developers and how we'll need more of them in the future - to which she replied:
"oh... what are you going to do? You can't live without a job!"
- erm? What?
"Well - you're not smart like those guys. You'll probably get fired now."
- Wtf mom!? I'm a friggin lead dev and i've been a developer for like 10 years now!? 😳
*silence* "is that what you've been doing? I thought you just kept clicking on stuff"11
That feeling when the feature you've been working on everyday for the past 2 months is pushed into production.
My baby's all grown up now 😭8
Rofl. Used this saying at work. Writing software is like having a child. Make one mistake and you have to support it for the next eighteen years2
Looking forward to read of some nice "dumps", "leaks" and "overflows" there. :D4
I fucking do not want to decide for family-planning-stuff just yet. While being 23 yo. Still getting a degree. But apparently, I have to. I read and thought a lot about that stuff the last days, weeks… My girlfriend and I can’t actually decide for a contraception solution that fits us. Sounds dumb yeah? Because, there are condoms, aren’t there? Yeah, there are. But we constantly fail to stick to them. And anyway, it’s not a longterm solution. I don’t want to become a dad just know. We don’t have any options left. Hormones are no option, this also excludes artificial insemination. Because this includes hormone-therapy. So, if I go for a vasectomy, we won’t get any children together in future. But we’d be happy now. But the risk of mental issues with that in the future is huge.
We are arguing for so long about this now, but we just don’t have a solution. She blocks all options, as they put her at a health risk or she fears mental risks for me/her.
I’m running out of energy for this. And I’m young and don’t know with whom to discuss and talk about this shit. My friends don’t have these issues (this is, why I post that here…).
And of course, I want to be responsible and no, it’s not just the women’s task in relationships to take care about contraception. We have a long-distance relationship. This makes it so hard to fight, because you’re so far away from feeling the other one.
And guess what, I really want children in future. And today, I watched my favourite TV-series to procrastinate my feelings and guess what. My favourite character got an unexpected child.47
So after a pretty packed day of family time, DIY, play dates and parenting, I managed to squeeze in a couple of hours of game dev... now to get up in 6 hours to go to work.1
If I was to talk about software, the act of coding is probably the most boring part. But birthing a program can pull from magic, animation, circus, gardening, parenting, woodwork, and a host of arts, trades, and crafts. It is a wonderful creative task that is being sold short by brilliant jerks, one trick fools, and con men.2
Documenting your code is like raising a child in a world full of idiots. If the parenting is not done right then your code will be as stupid as the world.